Ok, i was throwing out the question here since you ppl are awesome, i can ask in the mailing list too.
It totaly works with OpenWrt and its version of relayd
https://openwrt.org/docs/guide-user/network/wifi/relay_configuration
Also i found on the Debian side ppl where using hostap to connect to an AP and then hostap whould join the bridge of the ethernet card
https://superuser.com/questions/1346294/bridging-vlan-and-wifi
I have now working that the lans switch1 and 2 can se eachother
I used routing for this (config on router and config on NetBSD) and ipv4 forwarding set to 1
No firewall running
Only thing iam missing is that the lan side on switch2 has no internet
I think i need to looking into the NAT rules on my router/firewall
thank you